Friday, September 19, 2014

Missionaries, Cakes with Chili Peppers, and Finding a Better Way

John 14:2But the Comforterwhich is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you.

I had an experience this summer with the Holy Ghost helping me to remember something.

There was a weekend in June that it hit me.  It hit me HARD.  Tanner graduated from High School, Seminary, and earned his Eagle Scout- all in one week- and I realized that my boy was leaving me in a few short months.  He was leaving for two years and I was REALLY going to miss him.  

You should know that I am not a very emotional person - that's Brent role in our home.

But suddenly I became VERY emotional at the thought of 
not talking to 
or seeing 
or smelling 
0r laughing at
 or wrapping my arms around my son.  

The more I thought about it, the more I couldn't help but get teary eyed every time I was around him.

And then I realized that my sadness was transferring to him.  Tanner, who has always been so excited to serve a mission, was witnessing my sadness at his leaving and was getting melancholy about it too.

Then one day a thought came into my mind: "Your going about this all wrong."

I think it was a prompting actually.

I knew exactly what was meant.  
It was the way I was sending Tanner off.  The problem was, I wasn't sure how else to do it.  I was so overcome with sadness at the thought of his absence from our home.

That is when I felt the Holy Ghost helped me remember something that I honestly had not thought of for about 8 years.  I had a vivid memory of a friend of mine who was so excited about a cake she had purchased for her son's missionary farewell.  He was leaving that very week to go start a mission to Chile.  She had asked the bakery to decorate a cake with little chili peppers all over it.  As she showed it to me, she just radiated happiness and excitement.  I remember her telling me how wonderful it all was and how happy she was that her son had decided to serve a mission.  This very spiritually mature mother - someone I still look up to- could see beyond the sadness of her boy leaving her for two years.  Instead, she focused on what a growing experience she knew it would be for him and the lives he would change as he served.  

As this memory was brought back to my mind, I felt like I got my answer as clear as a bell.  I needed to follow Karen's example and take "SADNESS" completely out of my vocabulary and replace it with EXCITEMENT for this game changing opportunity.  Every time I started feeling the least bit sad, I would go back to that memory of Karen sending off her son.  

It was a better way.

We are told in John 14 that one of the roles of the Holy Ghost is to bring to a remembrance the things that will teach us.  

I'm so grateful for that experience, the Holy Ghost, and for the example of  Karen.

It made it so much easier to send Tanner off into the mission field and so much easier for him to go.  Part of the reason I think his transition has been so smooth is because of that prompting that day and Karen showing me a better way.

Wednesday, September 3, 2014

August 2014 according to my iphone

Well we have officially moved into the stage where we no longer have little wee ones.  We made it official by giving this away.  Im not sure if I'm sad or immensely happy about that.
 Here is Reagan and I on a lunch date.
 how Brutus spent his summer vacation...
 August brought reunions with old friends,
 saying goodbye to one of my best friends,
 lots of back to school shopping with girlfriends,

 cheer camp, 

 and , I have to admit, some heartbreak and tears,
 The girls were able to go to the temple with the youth  (and then dessert afterward).
 We got this fun picture from some friends who just happened to be on Tanner's flight as he was leaving for the MTC.  Small world, I tell you.

 Got this cool text from a friend who saw my girls and their friends at Hawaiian Falls one day.  This is the stuff that makes a mother's heart smile.

 We threw a surprise party for this darling girls who is our newest "beehive" (12 and 13 year old girl's youth group) in our church congregation.

Found out that our missionary hero has become fast friends with his trainer in the field.
 I love life in my small town.  How awesome is this?
 Tanner ran into Eric Mack in Thatcher Arizona.  TOTAL COINCIDENCE that they just happened to be at the same sno cone place.
 First day of school, I started cleaning out closets.  It feels so good to do that.  I tell you it's better than therapy.

 We tried to fit in as much fun before the homework and tests hit.

 And this made me smile yesterday when I looked down at my nine year old and saw that he was wearing his big brother's socks.  I hope Tanner knows how much he is missed.

Life is good!  We are good!  August was good to us.  Hoping September will be too.

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

August 25, 2014 - 1st day of 4th, 7th, and 8th

8th grade boys beware!
 Same to you 7th grade boys!

 This crazy kid is starting 4th grade.  So glad he get to walk to school every day with 2 of his buddies.
Lady killers is what these three are.

 And once again, they're off!

Monday, September 1, 2014

One Directioners

For Reagan's birthday (she got the tix last March) and as a last bug hurrah to celebrate a fantastic summer, we went on a girl's trip to Houston for the One Direction concert.  It was 8 adorable teenager-ish girls and 4 moms.

Love these three gals!  (I might have intentionally cut myself out of this photo.)
My pals, Jenny, Sheri, and Heather.