Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Dad Day & Joe's Crab Shack 2011

We have a family tradition of going to Joe's Crab shack every year the day before Father's Day. It is Brent's favorite and kinda pricey so we reserve it for special occasions. The kids have all come to love CRAB so it is a much awaited treat. Here are some pics.

I couldn't let the day go by without expressing my love and appreciation for the guy who fathers the children in our home and does so magnificently. He is such a shining example of what a dad should be. He is so patient, kind, helpful, and I happen to think he is a hottie to boot!

Saturday, June 11, 2011

He is a SURVIVOR, no really.

Well. Tanner is back from a week on an island with his fellow survivors. The Varsity and Venturing troops decided to have a LORD OF THE FLIES expeience for their high adventure this year. They canoed to an island, took 25 (alive) chickens, beans, rice, and a 130 lb pig with them. All they were armed with were spears that they made themselves. The leaders had knives to help cut up the kill once it was grillin' time.

Here is a picture from one of the leaders that went with Tanner, This was his bed for the week. Rest assured, more will be posted later this week.

Sunday, June 5, 2011

Sometimes it takes a village

Friday I was at an awards ceremony for one child when another called saying he was done with his finals and could I come pick him up?

I couldn't leave for awhile.

So another mom of a girl in the ward dropped him off.

Later a friend called telling me that she was in a bind and could I help her by picking her son (who just happens to be Tanner's best friend) up from school and dropping him off at his house?

I was happy to.

Every Sunday we save seats for the Raineys. Empty Nesters in our ward that my three youngest have adopted. Sunday just doesn't feel like Sunday to them if they are not sitting with the Raineys during sacrament meeting.

Jensen loves Sister Cordy's lessons. Sister Cordy has served very effectively as the Laurel teacher and has had a profound influence on my daughter. We raised our hands in a vote of thanks to release her today - with mixed feelings.

Sometimes it takes a village. The beautiful thing is, I am surrounded by so many wonderful ward family members who bless my life and the lives of my children. I am so grateful.

Thursday, June 2, 2011

How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk.

That is the title of one of my favorite books on parenting. There is a regular version for kids and then an updated version came out years later for teens. I have read them both and they are fantastic. Here are some of my best tips for getting your kids to talk. I am not sure where I read about them or heard about them.

Best, Worst, and "'learn today"

At dinner, we go around the table and each person tells their "best" and "worst" thing that happened that day and also 1 thing that they learned. I love this because it forces even the shy ones to talk. You would be amazed at the things you will learn with just this one little thing. Very often, they won't have a "worst" to share. That is fine. But they have to thin of a "best" and don't let them try to tell you they didn't learn anything that day. It is absolutely impossible NOT to learn something each day. Even if it is just that someone at school was sick or that they like sweet potatoes. that is something they learned!

Most of the time, I follow up on the "worsts" in private after dinner to see if it is something they want to talk about in more detail with me. It was through this little game that I have learned countless tidbits about my kiddos including bullies on the elementary school bus, an overbearing teacher, and a significant feeling of inadequacy that one the Argyle offspring was struggling with. We were able to nip all of them in the bud with a little dose of mom intervention. :O) I have even learned alot about my hubbys work and stresses he is dealing with.

"Would you rather...?"

You think of scenarios and ask them of the whole family and go around the dinner table answering one at a time.


Would you rather be the smartest person in your class or the prettiest?

Would you rather kiss a frog or eat a squid?

Would you rather have a wart on your face or chronic bad breath?

Weird, I know. But kids love it. Especially elementary age kids.

Table Talk
It is called "Table Talk". I made them EONS ago for all my YW for a lesson about improving family relations. Each little strip of paper has a question on it that you can ask of your family at dinner time.

For instance,

"If you had a million dollars given to you but you had to do something for someone else with it, how would you spend it?"


"Name an invention that you are most thankful for and why".


"What is your favorite thing about yourself and why?"


"What is something you can do better than your parents?"

Anyway, those are some tricks of the trade I use here that seem to work pretty well.

Give 'em a try.

No fair weather fans over here

C'mon MAVS!

Beat the heat.