Friday, January 30, 2009

25 random things tag

1. I would rather sleep than eat.

2. I hate watching sports on tv. My hubby loves watching sports on tv. Any sport.

3. Brent and I were married for 5 years before we had our first child.

4. I have a bachelors degree in Early Childhood Education.

5. I have never used my degree.

6. I have my framed degree hanging on my wall in my laundry room.

7. I do a sudoku puzzle in a bubble bath every night before bedtime pretty much without exception.

8. We go out on a date every weekend and have for the last ten years or so.

9. I love doing these little tag games and learning about people.

10. I am a Native Texan and proud of it!

11. I spend WAY TOO MUCH time watching tv.

12. I like to create order out of chaos.

13. I hate JAZZ music. It gives me a headache.

14. I don't particularly care for ice cream.

15. I can pretty much find something to like about everyone.

16. I am happy 99% of the time.

17. I am more laid back than I used to be. 5 kids has done that for me.

18. I believe I am married to my soulmate.

19. My husband is my best friend.

20. When I was a teenager, most of my closer friends were guys because I think chicks can be cruel and mean sometimes.

21. I have had miagraine headaches since I was 4 years old.

22. I know where I came from, why I'm here, and where I'm going after mortality is over.

23. I'm a little bit compulsive about cleanliness. ok ALOT.

24. I want to go back to school and get my masters in psychology and counsel teens.

25. I believe that love can be eternal.

Monday, January 26, 2009

It's official! She got in!

I realized it was official that Jensen is deep into teenager-dom when I opened up my email and found a confirmation that she had gotten in to EFY this summer. Did you hear me?

My baby is going to EFY this summer!

It seems like just yesterday I was putting big bows in her hair and diapering her cute little butt! Where did all the time go????

I remember the one time my sister went off to EFY . She came home on such a spiritual high and couldn't stop talking about it.

I want that for Jensen.

None of the other girl's that she hangs out with are going. Understandeable, with the crappy economy and that fact that they raised the price substantially. It was a tough decision for us for those reasons too. There is an outside chance one of her friends might try to get in later.
For now, she is going all by herself. (sigh)
After consulting with several of my friends who have treaded this territory before, we were told by every one of them that it would be better to send her alone than to not send her at all. I hope we made the right decision. We think we did.

Friday, January 23, 2009

Finally! After wanting it for almost 6 months.....

I got new bedding. I have wanted this comforter for what seems like forever but it was so pricey I just couldn't bring myself to do it. Then it went on sale, HALF OFF! Like every woman, i took that as a sign that it wanted to be mine! Now I just need a picture above the bed, hmmmm. It seems like one decorating project just leads to another...
Zeus has already laid claim to the old bedding. :O)

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Everything I Ever needed to know I could have learned from my dog????

"What Your Pet Can Teach You"

by Cesar Millan

1. Live in the moment. Dogs don't regret the past or worry about the future. If we can learn to appreciate and focus on what's happening in the here and now, we'll experience a richness of living that other members of the animal kingdom enjoy.
2. Nurture a Balanced life. Dogs need to be offered exercise, discipline, and affection every day. Do the same for yourself. We humans are happier if our routines include physical activity, a sense of structure, and the opportunity to give and receive love on a daily basis.

3. Trust you instincts. Animals don't care about words. They recognize that what is really going on in any interaction is beneath the surface. By paying attention to non-verbal cues such as body language and energy, we can learn more about our friends, our loved ones, and ourselves.

4. Learn to Listen. Make the time to lend an ear to those you love or those who want to transform their lives. But don't try to fix their problems.

5. Don't hold grudges. There is a remarkeable lack of conflict in dog packs. That's because members resolve the situation when disagreements arise, then move on. Imagine what our world would be like if we dealt with our conflicts before they escalated out of control. Holding onto negative feeling tends to make them multiply and prevent us from moving forward.

6. Live With Purpose. When dogs are bored they develop issues ranging from anxiety to aggression. But when given a job and a way to contribute to the pack's weel -being, they turn around almost immediately. All animals,-including himans-have an inborn need to work for food and water. Ask yourself how you can contribute more ot your job, your family, and the world around you. You'll feel much better about yourself if you earn your food and water.

7. Celebrate every day. For a dog, every morning is Christmas morning. Every walk is the best walk. Every meal is the best meal. Every game is the best game. We can learn so much by observing the way our pet's rejoice in life's simplest moments. Take time every day to celebrate the many gifts that are hidden in the ordinary events of your own life.

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

time for a change...

In honor of a day of change all over America I thought I was ready for a change too. What d'ya think of the new wallpaper folks? I love Valentine's Day so I wanted something sweet and "Valentiney". :O)

Sunday, January 18, 2009

the good mothers

"The most important thing she’d learned over the years was that there was no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one. "
— Jill Churchill

I am far from a perfect mother. Some days I don't even think I could call myself a good one. Here are a few of the millions of ways that help me on my "good mother" days.

1. Try to get all the housekeeping things done so that when they get home from school in the afternoon they have my undivided attention.

2. Turn off the radio on car rides so we can talk.

3. Tell them not just that I love them but that I like them and why.

4. Family scripture study before they go off to school to armor them for the day. Middle school is tough.

5. Sometimes I say "no".

6. Home Cooked Meals.

Share your best "good mom" tip! Whether it is something you do, your mom did for you, or something you have seen in another good mother.

Leave them in the comments. :O)

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Way to go Bulls!

Tanner joined a McKinney Rec team and has really had a good experience with it. He played in his first game saturday and look at the final score! (we were the visitors.)

This team is AWESOME!

This is going to be such a great opportunity for him. The guys he is playing with are all a good group of boys and they are teaching him alot. His skills are really improving and he gets ALOT of playing time. (There are only 7 guys on the team) Also, I really like his coach. He is exactly what Tanner needs. He is good, knowledgeable, but not too intense.
Most important, he is having fun.
He is also the Brent's Assistant Coach for McKinley's team. He really enjoys that (and so does McKinley) I will post pictures from her first game next week.

Monday, January 12, 2009

A Carrollton 2nd Reunion, sorta

Saturday night, we went to dinner with close friends from our old ward. Actually, half of the people that came are still in C2 but the other half have moved away. It was so thrilling to see everyone. I get together with the girls for lunch pretty often but this was especially nice because all the guys were there too. We stayed for almost 3 hours talking! I think we would have stayed longer but some of us had to go pick kids up from the Stake Dance. There is nothing like good friends and these are some great ones. I feel so blessed to have had them in my life. Some of them I have known for almost 20 years. I will love them forever.

Jammi and Roger

Jammi is so fun to talk with. She is one of the best story tellers I know. It never fails that every time I am around her, she always cracks me up.

Jim and Diane

Jim is one of the smartest people I have ever met. At one point he was literally a rocket scientist. Now he is doing some other genius endeavor. Diane is probably the sweetest person I know. She has THE biggest, kindest heart. I have never heard her say anything remotely negative about anyone.

Here is Diane with Marianna

Marianna's husband is the Bishop of their ward and he had a meeting so he couldn't come. Marianna wasn't going to let that stop her from missing out on all the fun, though. I am so glad. I just love her so much. She is one of the wisest people I know. A great person to go to for advice and perspective.

Kevin and Catherine

.... (and Diane's head, I think) :O) Catherine would give you the shirt off her back. She was my steadfast workout buddy for years and I miss her so much every weekday I am at the gym all by myself.

Mike and Vali

Vali and Mike have been like parents to me. I love them so much and they helped me get through some of the toughest challenges of my life. I always tell her that when I grow up I want to be just like her. I don't think I could love these people more.

Susan and Gary

They moved into Carrollton 2nd Ward about a year before we moved out but we became fast friends. We still do alot with them. They are our "go to" couple that we can always call at the last minute to go see a movie or go to dinner.

Me and my sweetie.

Saturday, January 10, 2009

Just goes to show you can't take it with you...

I know many of you have had this experience so you can relate. Today was a sad day for me, and I didn't realize it would be. I got a call from my mom shortly after noon to tell me that the estate planners were coming over to meet with them to go through my grandmother's house. "GiGi" as we call her has Alzheimers. Her husband, Jim, is in the final stages of liver cancer. They just recently moved out of their house of thirty+ years to an independent living apartment complex. Mom wanted me and my sister to go over and get anything that we might want before the sale.
I got pretty emotional; especially when I looked out the window that overlooks the deck in their backyard. There is a swing there that every single one of my kids loves. She only lives two blocks from our old house so we used to walk over to her house all the time and no matter what the weather, they would always want to go out there and swing with her and Papa. So many memories came flooding back to me when I looked at it and I couldn't stop crying.

I looked high and low for some things that would be meaningful to me.

Here is what I came home with:

My mom said this mirror has been in the family for awhile. She remembers it when she was a little girl. I hung it in my master bathroom.

This mirrored tray is really cool. It reminds me of my Gigi because she always smells so good. Whenever she would hold one of my babies we could always smell Gigi on them long after she had left. I approriately put all my perfume on it. Every time I spray some on I hope to think of her.

This was kind of a random thing but Gigi has a MILLION candles and this one was a favorite scent that I remember her house smelling like so I brought it home.

I love this little clock. She had it on her fireplace mantle in her formal dining room as long as I can remember. I put it in my office.

This was something I got for the kids. She gave it to Papa LAST christmas and I don't think he ever even played it. It is really cool because you can program it to play songs and the keys light up to show you what keys to play. It is really nice and they are fighting over who gets to play it as I type this.

It just made me realize how silly we are to spend our whole lives acquiring things.

In the end we just sell it or give it away. We can't take it with us. The things that mean the most to us are the pictures and memories. That is why I decided that I am going to rotate through my kids and let them take a day off from school to go spend one day each week with her until school gets out. She never gets out anymore. She can't drive and my grandfather is usually too weak to take her anywhere. One of her favorite things is when I go pick her up and take her shopping and to lunch. I decided today, though, that I want my kids to have more memories with her too. Who knows how much longer we will have that chance....

One of the greatest tender mercies I have been afforded in my lifetime is the closeness I share with all of my grandparents. They are all still living and have had EXTREMELY close relationships with my kids, as well. Contrast that with my husband whose granparents have all passed on and who my children never really knew. I realize it is a blessing. Family is what it is all about, folks.

Friday, January 9, 2009

Builders vs. Wreckers

A little poem I heard from John Bytheway on a BYU fireside (on BYUTV) today. Makes me stop and go "hmmmmm....." I might have another resolution to add to my growing list.....
Builders vs. Wreckers

I passed one day through a lonely town
And saw men tearing a building down.
With a ho-heave-ho and a husky yell
They swung at a beam and a side wall fell.

I asked the foreman, “Are these men skilled-
The kind you’d hire if you had to build?”
“Oh no!” he chuckled, “No indeed-
The common laborer is all I need.”
“Why I can destroy in a day or two
What builders have taken weeks to do.”

I thought to myself as I went on my way
“Which of these rolls have I tried to play?
Am I the builder who works with care
Strengthening lives by rule and square,
Shaping my peers to a well made plan-
Helping them do the best they can-
Or am I a wrecker who walks around
Content with the labor of tearing down?”

-Author Unknown

Thursday, January 8, 2009

shame on me!

Last night I took Tanner to basketball practice at a middle school in a neighboring city. When I woke up this morning I realized
a) I must have left the phone at the middle school by accident
b) dropped it in the parking lot on my way to the car.
Oh crap!

I searched high and low and all over my house, purse, and car but to no avail. I knew It HAD to be at the school. "Oh, well" I told a friend , "Fat chance that some middle schooler would find a pink razr and turn it in to the lost and found. I guess I will be buying a new phone this week." I even called and had the provider turn the service off so that I wouldn't be responsible for any calls.

I had just finished making a list of all the lost phone numbers I would have to find a re-enter


HALLELUJAH! (insert chorus of angels here)
My home number rang!!! The Middle School Coach called to tell me someone had turned it in and left it on his desk.
I am so glad to hear that someone out there has some integrity. Doesn't it feel like lately everywhere you turn there are stories of one more person who lied or cheated or stole or murdered?( Amanda, I know you can relate to this right now!)

Anyway, I was wrong for being so pessimistic. Shame on me! My faith in humanity has been restored. I am picking my phone up at 5! YAY! Lesson learned.

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

happy people

I get the Real Simple quote of the day and today it was this one from Ann Frank:

"Whoever is happy will make others happy too."

Pretty amazing considering what a hard life she lived. I think it so true. I really love being around people who are happy despite their circumstances and Ann Frank is certainly a perfect example of that! I have a friend who suffers from chronic pain- REALLY bad chronic pain EVERY SINGLE DAY and yet the first word that comes to mind to describe her is HAPPY. Whenever I am with her I feel happy too. As a mom I think this is particularly true. I TOTALLY set the mood for my house. If I am pms-ing or irritable - it sucks the joy out of the whole house. Fortunately I realized that awhile ago so I know can do something about it now. (My family is probably really glad about that too!)
A few years ago while going through a particularly hard time as a family we came up with a stupid little game that we called "finding the silver lining". We would go around the table at dinner and name things that had happened that were kinda crappy and try to find something good from it. Example: "Tanner didn't make the basketball team at school but he joined the McKinney Rec team and made some new friends that he really likes" or "Jensen was home sick all day but she got to watch two of her favorite movies and started a good book" ....that kind of thing. It really works. I think one of the best things we can teach our kids is that there is always a bright side to everything. Sometimes you have to look REALLY hard to find it but you almost always can. If I can help them learn that priniciple ( and maybe remind myself of it along the way, as well) and have faith and hope then I know they will be able to handle whatever comes their way as adults.
Here's to all the happy people of the world-thanks!

Sunday, January 4, 2009

a SUNBEAM, a SUNBEAM, Jesus wants him for a SUNBEAM

My baby is not a baby anymore! WAAAAAAH! He is a Sunbeam now. Fortunately, he has two wonderful teachers (Sister Hambly and Sister Delgado) so the transition was smoooooth!