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Be Happy Without Being Perfect: How to Break Free from the Perfection Deception Be Happy Without Being Perfect: How to Break Free from the Perfection Deception by Alice Domar


My review


rating: 4 of 5 stars
I want to go back and get my masters degree in the next few years (When Brady starts kindergarten) and specialize in counseling for women so that is why I read this book. Maybe someday I will write a paper about it-it was THAT good. It has information in it to help women who suffer from "perfection deception" - as it is coined in this book. Honestly, I think we can ALL benefit from parts of it. Specifically she identifies several areas where we (women) typically expect too much from ourselves: our appearance (weight), our homes (Martha Stewart comparisons), our job performance, parenting, and relationships with others. She helps by offering hands on tips on how to overcome anxiety, recognize destructive thinking, relax more, use cognitive therapy to re-set expectations and let things go. If you are scared away by the term cognitive therapy - don't be- she uses layman's terms to explain it in detail so that you can understand it better. I don't know that I have ever met a woman who didn't need to be a little easier on herself in some way or another.

Comments

Jess said…
Well, I should definitely read this book. Let's just say, it's been one of those days...
July 8, 2008 at 6:26 PM
Sarah said…
sounds like I need to read that book like the scriptures: DAILY!!! totally me!! I'll have to check it out.

you would be a great at counseling. you just have that friendly personality that seems to put people at ease. :D
July 8, 2008 at 7:11 PM
Dani said…
thanks for the recommendation...I am always looking for good books. Hey did you ever read that book I told you about...atonement child?
July 9, 2008 at 9:30 AM
The A Team said…
i'm going to read this book. i've been looking for a nice summer read and if it helps me not be so hard on myself...even better!
July 10, 2008 at 9:18 AM
Bethanne said…
I am definitely marking this one down on my list. Have you ever read Sheri Dew's "No Doubt About It"? I remember reading it in college and feeling like it too was quite a motivational, easy read (directed towards women). LOVED it.

Good for you about the Masters! Before I came out about being pregnant with Leah I worked full-time for BYU...and they offered me a full fellowship to get my MBA/MPA at the college. And we could travel which is what Dan and I love to do...but the timing was wrong. And to be honest, I have A.D.D. Not really, but my spectrum of interests is WAY too broad to narrow it down to one subject I think. Problems? Yep. Hey, maybe I can be one of your patients? :)
July 13, 2008 at 9:41 PM
Amanda said…
I think you would be a an AWESOME counselor!!!!

So have you read the second book Sarah's Quilt? It is even better than These is My words! Sarah is also one of my ALL TIME fav. characters!!!! I am sure there is a way I could search your Good reads and see if you have....but I haven't had much time to play with that site yet!
July 14, 2008 at 4:10 AM
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